Taking the Bully by the Horns
by Kathy Noll, Jay Carter
& Flora Cusimano (Illustrator)
December 31, 1998
The Justice Department says 1 out of every 4 kids will be abused by another youth. It's time to do something about it! In a recent study, 77% of the students said they were bullied. 14% of those said they experienced severe (bad) reactions to the abuse. "Taking the Bully by the Horns" is helping kids/teens deal with bully, self-esteem & school violence issues. This includes the victims, the bullies, AND the bystanders. We've all been bullied to some extent, and we've all seen those around us being bullied. It's time to break the "Bully Cycle."
Our book is helping educators all over the Globe. Principals, Guidance Counselors, Librarians, PTO's/PTA's, Childrens Organizations and Parents, have given it positive reviewS & Support. One chapter tells the victim that he's "ok" (self-esteem), teaches him/her how to avoid certain situations, and explains what to do if he/she is being bullied & how to get help. Sometimes kids get so sick of being Victims, that they become the "Bullies." They feel so bad about themselves and think that controlling someone else will make them feel better or help distract from their own problems. (In our book we call this the "Bully Cycle.") Another chapter asks the bully why he (or she) bullies. Is he angry about something? Did someone hurt him in the past? He needs to feel better about himself in order to change, and to stop bullying. Yes, both Victims AND Bullies have low self-esteem. Arrogance should not be mistaken for a "high self- esteem." Someone who has a "good" self-esteem has no need to control.
- Dr. Jay Carter
If ALL kids could understand how to accept themselves and know that they're "OK", there wouldn't have to be any "Bullies" or "Victims."
This book explores different ways kids/teens are bullied (verbally, mentally and physically), how the bully becomes a bully, how the victim becomes a victim (there can be a fine line between the two), and what can be done about it. For Elementary - Jr. High. Adults can also share it with younger children